Unbridgeable memories

Necklace that I bought when I was 21 years old.

Last week, due to an urge within myself, I managed to found my long lost bestfriend that has been with me since Standard 1 till Standard 6 made me quite happy. We managed to exchanged phone number to contact each other easily. That night, he called me to asked what's happening with my life to fill up the gap when we lost contact. 

When he started to talked about the past memories that we had together, I felt a large gap there that unable for me to get back the feeling I had in the past. It might due to we lost contact and the life I had been through already makes me felt uneasy. 

Still I am looking forward with I am having now with my buddy, Josh and also my good friends, Jia Ye, Mav and Josh O. What's in the past, already became a history including the betrayals, in which, I had put down for the sake of current friendship and buddieship. 

No matter what happen, I will still stand with my buddy and good friends for supported me in many ways. Those unbridgeable memories has been nonconstructive and need to construct with a new bridge.

One of the best example was to take out a necklace which I bought when I was 21 years old to mark my own birthday and also the new era where "New Existentialism Reformatory Vanguard" was formed after all groups from my previous living place combined to make it happened.

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Weekly summary: 21st - 27th of Av, 5771

21st of Av 5771 — During the sharing of the church, Damien Chua, son of Dato' Chua Soi Lek (former Health Minister) was the guest speaker. He was talking about his entire breakthrough in his life and struggled with the family. At the end of the morning, Josh, Jia Ye, Josh O. and I went out voluntarily to be prayed for breakthrough. I know my own breakthrough with my friendship and buddieship as well.

After Josh and I had received the prayer, Jia Ye and Josh O. came along and waited for their turn. While we were still standing, one again, I hugged Josh and thanked him for became my buddy. I also hugged Jia Ye because a night before, I had said to him that I will hug him too.

God's mighty work always the wonderful thing that no one else can imagine. Josh once told me that he dislike being touched and now, he able to put the fear aside (although he might have a little bit of fear) and the vision I had already came true.

24th of Av 5771 — I had turned myself from a nice guy to bad ass because I thought that nice guy will not always ended get treated nicely. During the CF meeting, I didn't really going for it. I ended up playing wrestling with Dylan. While Josh came upon, we talked and played along too. Since that I have been wrestled Dylan, I braved myself to take the opportunity to take my buddy for a side slam. Yet, I able to take my buddy for side slam but released him before I could really do the slam. He told me that he was scary when I was grabbing him for that maneuver.

27th of Av 5771 — Josh and I met at Pasar Seni LRT station to initiate our plan to make the camp's T-shirts. I took Josh around Central Market before we have our lunch together (we ate Thai foods). We also talked a few things regarding his leadership in the CF and the church as well. However, the plan of making the T-shirts was abandoned due to I forgotten my pendrive and we were unable to confirm how many type of sizes we need.

I need to go to Wangsa Walk to survey a few things and while we were at the LRT station, I can really open up myself to tell him many history about myself which not really many people know about, even my former bestfriends. We have been waiting for four coaches' train while we were talking but ended up stepping into 2 coaches' train.

We also stopped by at A&W to have a light foods (curly fries and French friends) and drinks (root beer). At the same time, we talked many things about description of buddieship and he told me that he had told other good friends of mine about my problems as well. I went to the first surveying place to get the price and every detail I need before preceded to the arcade.

I know that he started to get tired and I ended the trip (after the arcade). I also apologized to him for accompanied me all along. I also don’t want to tire him further so, we departed at his apartment’s entrance and we gave each other a knuckle punch. 

Then, I went to Times Square and Sungei Wang to find the second item that I need to survey. I have been walking the both malls but ended didn’t get anything that I wanted to. I went back to Times Square again find and yes! I finally saw what I want. I bought that thing for almost RM200 and I think it is worth of buying (even I know what going to happen too).

Notice: I will released another photo of this item soon. As for now, I am not going to reveal it just yet.

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Admitted Buddieship

19th of Av, 5771 — That day, Little Grey Rabbit needed to prepare everything for Friday Fellowship. Due to no confidence to share about "Friendship", he tried to 'escape' again. Many unfortunate things happened on that day too. Rabbit's laptop could not open the slides that has been ready yesterday night. Solutions were taken but none of it can make the software works once more.

I took much of the time to go in and out the building and not even really wanted to talk about "friendship" as Rabbit already get frustrated. Boar J. came and approached Rabbit and asked him, "What's up?" like he used to be. "I think I am not ready for this sharing and not even qualified to talk about it," replied Rabbit.

"I was also not qualified to talk about "faith" what?" and Boar J. stayed with Rabbit for a while before he went into the fellowship room to began the worship. As Rabbit stayed out from the room for a short time, he step into the room and began to look nervous. He tried to settle down but he couldn't until it was the time for him to start his speech.

Rabbit began his speech and started in a slow and stuttering manner. He keeps his pace along and started to talk about "friendship". When talked about his current life with his friends and buddy, Boar J. without anything to think of and rise up his hand to admit that he is Rabbit's buddy. He also continued to rise up his hand without any shame or fear that he is indeed Rabbit's buddy, in front of others who still unaware with their buddieship.

It has given Rabbit more confidents to continue on his speech. Of course, there was speech errors occurred too. Nevertheless, people keep listening to Rabbit's speech. 

Later that afternoon, Rabbit was in the admin block along with Teacher Chloe, Professor Marvelous and Boar J. to discuss with Her Majesty to discuss the changes of plan of their winter camp. Boar J. gave Rabbit a knuckle punch like they always do when Her Majesty was not there. Now, Rabbit have confident that he able to keep his buddieship, just like David and Jonathan in 1 Samuel 20.

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On top of monkey bars

12th of Av, 5771 — Little Grey Rabbit was keeping himself out from anything again. He wasn’t talk much, smiled as he used to and he doesn't want to stay close with any people. Rabbit also pretended not able to see Professor Marvelous and Boar J.

It was also been a long time since Rabbit had climbed to a high place. Before Rabbit was diagnosed with low blood pressure, Rabbit climbed the wall and most notable, Rabbit climbed to the 2nd floor of World Wrestling Fans Production (WWF) Headquarter to rescue a trapped person from ground floor. 

Ever since, Rabbit was not able to climb any high place. Rabbit also used a high place to escape stress as well. He would stay at the highest floor of his school building (where his prefects' board will meets) and overlook the whole school fields. It was also an unseen side of Rabbit to climb on top of monkey bars in his current body health.

Not long after Rabbit climbed up the monkey bars and sat down, Boar J. came and sat with Rabbit too. He asked Rabbit, "What’s up?" Rabbit kept silent for a while and replied "There are many things 'playing' in my mind" and explained to Boar J. what had happened. Boar J. also replied Rabbit's previous question that he has been asking past 2 days about Boar J.'s favourite colour – Black.

When Boar J. went off to his friends, Rabbit also came down and gave Buddieship Knuckle Punch to Boar J. 

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Prayer answering God

Immediately after Little Grey Rabbit woke up in the morning of 8th of Av 5771, Rabbit felt the aura of God was present. God has given Rabbit the answer of his question that he has been asking for quite a while, through a vision during his sleep a night before.

Due to certain issued raised and a person revealed to have talked something not sweet to Boar J, the buddieship between Rabbit and Boar J. almost ended. It was also unsure whether Boar J. and Rabbit's covenant really accepted or otherwise since Boar J. has expressed his phobic of been touched except for his beloved.

On the night of 7th of Av 5771, God has revealed to Rabbit that He was pleased with his buddieship with Boar J. God also gave Rabbit a vision too. In the vision, Boar J. was having conversations with Rabbit. It was ended up with Boar J. came towards Rabbit and gave Rabbit a big, warm hug. Rabbit patted Boar J.'s head during the hug. Both Boar J. and Rabbit went to play, jump and run around (a place) before the vision ended.

Because of the prayer answering dream, Holy Spirit had led Rabbit for fasting, where he fasted from dawn until dusk. With Rabbit's body condition when he was just recovered, he able to keep the fast until the sunset. Before he broke fast, he prayed and gave thanks to the Lord for had answered the problem in his heart.

Rabbit also posted a status on his Faithbook saying that he doesn’t deserve it (to have this buddieship blessed). Later that day, Fairy Faye commented and said that, God will not reveal it to him if He thinks that Rabbit doesn’t deserve it. The comment had put many things in Rabbit's mind out and even eagerly wanted to improvise the buddieship.

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Baby steps of buddieship

Befriending the grey rabbit.

PANDAN INDAH — Our buddieship went quiet for a moment and today, we began something out of expectation. As we were about to continue of normal way of buddieship, I was awaken by a force within me that urged me to take the first step. When I wanted it, I put myself down by thinking, "Now might not be the best time for it!"

Just as I was preparing to go to the other block to start teaching, he was sending his beloved to the block as well. He turned back, saw me and greeted me. In my mind, I was still thinking, "Is this the correct moment?" Losing my mind, I stretched out my right hand and my palm was open wide. 

He also did the same thing and our palms met and clapped. My mind again - it says, "Lol! What am I doing?" Deep in my heart, I felt a taste of satisfaction. It is like a moment that will not be able to fade away.

Again, all these years, this "lock" has not been a part of the routine with my friends unless, someone whom I never met for a long, long time. 

During the afternoon, I was about to go to A Block because C Block has been cleared. He was with his beloved and one of his classmate, at the stairway of A Block. I took a little time to play with some kids that I am teaching before open the gate of A Block to inform him that his taxi (grandfather) has arrived. Before he said bye, he hitted softly on my stomach. 

I don't feel awkward because to me, it's a form of building up our buddieship in a very special way. Of course, I do like those things because it makes me to feel comfortable with this buddieship of ours. Unlike previous friendships, we had a plain friendships. Thanks buddy for everything! It is a moment that I am going to remember that I will not going to forget about. 

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The sealed buddieship

Monday, July 25 — That day, I was supposed to talk to Josh about things that happened a day before. Since, I need to work at the same time, I thought that it's best for us to talk face-to-face when we could. That morning, I need to take the cats out and I SMSed Josh to asked him whether was he able to come over to the park and talk while I am working. He replied me and said would meet me during lunch time.

He came over and I was having my lunch as well. As soon as I finished my lunch and asked my students to vacated the room (classroom). 

We talked about what had happened and Josh truly understand my situation. Few days before, he also "proclaimed" me as his buddy. So, after that, I guided him on how to do his sharing as well. 

We ended our conversation with a hug. It was the first time in my life history to give a hug to a friend because normally will be hugged by my elders, leaders and I will hug my students, my "brothers" and my partners.

However, some of my students saw us hugged... The hug has became the seal of our friendship and buddieship (don't be confuse with buddyship). Hopefully, I didn't regret on it! 

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The importance of hugs!

The manly embrace hug (man hug).

Warning: This hug is not for guys who are afraid of looking gay or are NOT in touch with their sensitive side as it involves full contact between two perfectly straight men.

I wish I had a picture to demonstrate this one but if I ever perform this hug in the future I will not want any evidence. I am personally unafraid to apply this hug unless it makes the receiver feel awkward in any way.This is a "bro hug" so you would hug close friends or family and it involves a fair bit of emotion. I have the picture that sort of explains how this hug is not normal in most Western societies. It is quite acceptable where I come from.

Method: Initiated by one party with open arms especially during an emotional moment, if you know guys, then you know, an openly emotional moment is pretty rare. In any case, you may catch a glimpse of this sometimes when a guy is drunk. This hug differs from the drunk hug because there are different types of drunk hugs as well. If you are ever party to this hug and do not reciprocate then it may cause your guy friends to deny all knowledge of it.

There is no better way to understand the importance of hugs than to be deprived of them. For those who have experienced a deprivation of hugs, you will know how important they are to share.

In those dire moments of hug deprivation even one hug can be enough to cheer you up.

Research by US psychologists Karen Grewen and Karen Light has shown that when people hug the brain releases the chemical oxytocin. This encourages social bonding, increases our willingness to trust and decreases fear. It has also shown that hugs are great for your heart. A study was conducted that measured the heart rates and blood pressure of two groups of people, a group of huggers and a group of non-huggers. Those who went without hugs were found to have a higher blood pressure and resting heart rate in comparison to the group of huggers, who had noticeably healthier results.

In 1995 a pair of prematurely born twins were being cared for in hospital. While one of the twins seemed quite healthy, her sister was suffering. After trying a range of medical approaches, the nurse on duty, Gayle Kasparian, placed the twins in bed together. The twins immediately snuggled up to each other. As one placed her arm around the other, the frail infant's health began to improve. You can never underestimate the power of a hug!

The need for hugs doesn't disappear as we grow older, though it seems we are less willing to give them. Research on people of all ages has proven that a hug is essential for physical and emotional well-being.

Without hugs we can become sad, withdrawn and depressed. A hug provides solace, safety and tenderness. A hug provides us with social contact, an overall sense of wellbeing and a feeling of importance and belonging.

By: Jan Mulder

Entrepreneur & Chairman and Blackstar Leader Ecademy Netherlands

Source from: http://www.advancedhugging.com/p/importance-of-hugs.html

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Gene Friend!

Recent research suggests that our genes play a part in who we choose our friends to be. Scientists, from the University of California, mapped out the friendship networks of over 9,000 people in order to identify genetic markers in six specific genes. They looked at how often they occurred among friends and found two genes that did affect friendships.

The first gene, a variant of DRD2, has been associated with alcoholism. Individuals with this gene tended to befriend others with the same marker, and vice versa, those who did not have the gene, tended to befriend others without it. The second gene, CYP2A6, is linked to individuals with an ‘open’ personality. Those with this gene tended to befriend and drift towards those without it.

The obvious theory here is that those who are not alcoholics avoid those who are, or at least avoid the places that alcoholics are most likely to be. Having friends of a similar genetic make-up may have a magnifying effect on personality traits, such as those with a genetic predisposition to alcoholism. Two alcoholic best friends are highly likely to only exacerbate each others addiction, as opposed to help it. Although, it has been found that recovering addicts are more successful if they receive help and support from fellow recovering addicts, but this isn’t directly related and I’ll save it for another time. In terms of the major issue of friendships and geography, we all know locality does influence who we make friends with, its just obvious. However, this study took this factor into account and the results still remained significant.

Finally, the main issue this study highlights is that of our social environment itself being an evolutionary force. “An important implication of these results is that genetic structure in human populations may result not only from the formation of reproductive unions, but also from the formation of friendship unions within a population,” said the scientists. ‘Human evolution may to some extent have been shaped by interactions between genes and friendship choices’.

Source from: http://seeamanaboutsomescience.co.uk/category/social/

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Happy Chinese New Year from Takashi Clan

THE COUNCIL OF TAKASHI CLAN, JAPAN—MALAYSIA
マレーシア — 日本、高使家族の評議会

CHINESE NEW YEAR OF THE RABBIT GREETINGS

Tomorrow, the Chinese communities all around the world will celebrate the Spring Festival or Chinese New Year. Nevertheless the House of Hayashi, Ko, Akechi and Kane will celebrate it as well. This year will be the year of the rabbit. I, myself also was born in the year of the rabbit. As Little Grey Rabbit has became a part of my name, I won’t missed the opportunity to get things that incorporated with rabbits (especially grey rabbits) and even wanting to get 2 real grey rabbits as pet.

This celebration also very meaningful to us, the Chinese-Japanese descendants and due to the influences from our Chinese side had made it more special too. Many unhappy matters happened but with the blessings from the Lord, I was able to move up and continue to be here and share my greetings. I can understand that the cost of living had rises daily. Don’t be afraid! Pray to Him and He will help you. Simple lifestyle is always the best.

Here, as the Head of Takashi Clan, House of Hayashi-Webster, Ko and Patrons to House of Akechi and Kane; would like to wish all Chinese a Happy Chinese New Year.

From:
TARO TAKASHI 高使太郎 (Daniel L. Hayashi-Webster)

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Confirmation of Buddieship

The word "buddieship" was a direct word for a friendship between two buddies, close friends or best friends (BFF - BEST FRIEND FOREVER). I was the one behind this word, eventually created the word. The root word of the word was buddy. Well! As a teacher, I was supposed to explore new things.

As I said before on my previous post, there were many things that had happened and there are more to come soon. I tried to fit myself in and get used to all my stress but yet I wanted to release it once in a while. In addition with my left ankle started to get pain after a year, I even get more angrier.

Seeing something not right, I posted many wall posts which contains disappointment of certain things - most notable when it comes to friendship. Rex, my buddy saw those comments and started to sms me regarding about it. After a few smses later, we chat on Facebook. Then, I reaffirmed my relationship between him - and he gave me an answer.

Without anymore doubts, I can finally put down all my stresses after seeing the confirmation. He is going to work at Low Yat Plaza Kuala Lumpur. I am also couldn't wait for my new laptop too. I don't care anymore about this damn laptop of that immature guy anymore. I going to give him back and I will need him to come to the designated place that I going to think of.

Trivia: David had suggested to have a group of us and name it as "Brothers-In-Arms".

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